The big issue that is brewing on my mind today is when John and I decide to have kids, should I stay home, or not? Funny that this topic seems to be something that I continually find myself pondering during my spare moments (which aren’t many since I am often consumed with knitting thoughts and knitting lust), but really… Could I be the type of person to stay home?
If all goes according to plan, this is not something that will happen anytime in the next two years – so it is not like there are any quick decisions to make here, but I just want to know how people come to the conclusion to stay home with kids. I work with a bunch of men, which I am sure that you have picked up on by now, and many of their wives stay at home. Lucky for them, our compensation structure can support such lifestyles. Maybe I should let John stay home… Nah, forget about that.
Maybe if I were not an equal contributor in our home it would be easier for me to see, but I am an equal contributor. How do you cut out one entire income? What has to happen for me to say staying home with our kids is worth it and I am willing to make that sacrifice? I think that it is a really unselfish thing to say – and probably not something that I will be able to say until I am acting as a human incubator to John’s spawn. I am sure when this does occur I will stop referring to pregnant women as incubators and babies as spawn
Yes, we definitely are not there yet.